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Do I just represent the ‘honor’ of the men in my family?
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Asma Razzaq |

Do not go to the park as your brother would not like it, this is not America’, my mother scolded me when I insisted on visiting a nearby park. ‘Your elder sisters have never been stubborn like you. They’ve always done whatever their brothers or husbands asked them to do’, my mother was very angry. ‘I want to go there’, I murmured but my mother’s reaction was so annoying that I had to follow her instructions immediately.

Let me introduce myself. My name is Asma and I have recently come back from the U.S. after completing my one and a half year-long fellowship program with a Washington-based non-profit, Atlas Corps.

My mother’s reaction unintentionally dragged me towards my days spent in the United States during the fellowship program. There, I was living in an apartment in Washington D.C. near the Water Front area while the Potomac River was just in front of my house.

Read more: Honour killings: Pakistan’s continuing shame

What is wrong about going to a park?
Am I just a symbol of honour and respect for the male members of my family while they do not care whether I am happy with this discriminatory behaviour or not?

When my mother stopped me from going out, all of the sudden I felt as I am in a prison where I have to seek the permission of the male members of my family whenever I need to go out of the house. ‘What is so bad about going to the public park?’ I questioned my mother. But instead of my mother, my brother said quickly, ‘I think you forgot that you are in Pakistan now, where the girls have to bear insulting comments, attitude and harassment when they go out. Being a brother, I cannot tolerate that my sister is being victimised by the dirty vulgar comments when she goes out’, my brother almost yelled at me.

Now it has been two months in Pakistan for me. and during these 60 days, every day I question myself, why I am here and why I came back to a place where I am not being treated as a human being made of flesh and bones… Am I just a symbol of honor and respect for the male members of my family while they do not care whether I am happy with this discriminatory behavior or not? Frankly speaking, I have become almost a mental patient now.

Read more: Continuing scourge of honor killing in Pakistan

‘I am not a human being now. I am just a puppet. Maybe Asma is no more alive’…

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Do I just represent the ‘honor’ of the men in my family?
 
Seriously the day (some) Boys are told not to glare at women (this has nothing to do with clothes because even full Burqas have expressed the same view) that is when women will feel a lot more comfortable and safe.

No one wants to hear your out of tune songs when you walk by. It's cringe worthy please! Eww
 
This hit so close as a person who had to move back to Pakistan permanently in teenage years.
I love my religion and i like my country but its a prison. I want to leave this place so bad.
 
This hit so close as a person who had to move back to Pakistan permanently in teenage years.
I love my religion and i like my country but its a prison. I want to leave this place so bad.

Every country has social problems. Such social evil exists in all forms hidden or known.
Pakistan is like no other. Until and unless you start being proactive, you cannot complain.
There is a revolution taking place in Pakistan. Be a part of it and enjoy the perks.
The West is in a steady decline and why go for short term solution to the problem.
 
Every country has social problems. Such social evil exists in all forms hidden or known.
Pakistan is like no other. Until and unless you start being proactive, you cannot complain.
There is a revolution taking place in Pakistan. Be a part of it and enjoy the perks.
The West is in a steady decline and why go for short term solution to the problem.
Pakistan doesn't have small problems, it has huge issues. There is no revolution, people don't care, theyll speak up for a bit go back to their old habits, this country ain't changing anytime soon. Why waste my life educating braindead extremists while i can go somewhere else and die in peace.
 
Pakistan doesn't have small problems, it has huge issues. There is no revolution, people don't care, theyll speak up for a bit go back to their old habits, this country ain't changing anytime soon. Why waste my life educating braindead extremists while i can go somewhere else and die in peace.

There are no huge issues. You are just impatient. The revolution will be at the earnest when you go take a stand somewhere and only return when you are finished with it.
So you basically said i cannot fight them so i join them. If you have given your all and cannot do more for country then be at peace with it. Death is eventual the struggle too.
 
Our society is hypocrite. Islam set same moral standards for male and females . Honour just revolve around women in our society while men get away easily when involve in same activities .. I have seen family who never take any notice if men involve in immoral activities whether its pre-martial affairs, drinking wine, smoking cigar/charas etc

But we all will start cursing and making judgement about character of women if she ever dare to smoke . This hypocrisy frustrate me and i wonder why fatwaz are just reserve for women
 
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For some reason being a crook/immoral is seen as achievement for men in pakistan.
clever usually means to be inteligent in a positive way but in pak it is be crafty, deceptive to be clever.

we do suffer from tremendous ego / boostfullness/selfishness/quick fix to everything.
 
The Men of the Family also represent the Honour of the Women in their Family.
 
There is a revolution taking place in Pakistan.
I find it hard to believe that you live in Pakistan. Perhaps you're an islooite or lahori? Because there is no revolution taking place in the rest of the country.
I've seen more women go under the burqa who previously wore shalwar kameez outside with no problem in the past 5-6 years than I can count. Narrow mindedness has been ever increasing among those who used to be classified as 'moderates' before.
Pakistan really is hell for women*
*lower class and lower middle class which forms more than 3/4ths of the population
 
I find it hard to believe that you live in Pakistan. Perhaps you're an islooite or lahori? Because there is no revolution taking place in the rest of the country.
I've seen more women go under the burqa who previously wore shalwar kameez outside with no problem in the past 5-6 years than I can count. Narrow mindedness has been ever increasing among those who used to be classified as 'moderates' before.
Pakistan really is hell for women*
*lower class and lower middle class which forms more than 3/4ths of the population

I see you and i raise you a ' if they are willingly doing it' why is it necessarily a bad thing?
 
There are no huge issues. You are just impatient. The revolution will be at the earnest when you go take a stand somewhere and only return when you are finished with it.
So you basically said i cannot fight them so i join them. If you have given your all and cannot do more for country then be at peace with it. Death is eventual the struggle too.
There are way too many issues in Pakistan lol that is something undeniable.
I don't see where and what is this "revolution" you speak of. All i see is a dead country which speaks up for gossip and goes back to being a graveyard.
I don't have to be at peace with the situation just because I want to live peacefully and free. Thats the typical thinking of our failed nation "If you don't like it here, go to the kafir west hah we ain't changing". smh
 
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