"Number 1: Apply the same logic to 180 million Pakistanis.. Those terrorists DO NOT represent MY country, so defacing 180 million for the sin of few doesn't make sense.."
Yet in many respects your sympathies are with the terrorists. I can evaluate YOU at least. And yes, the polity is represented by people in politics, that's not 180 million people, and these can be evaluated too: politicians, newspaper writers, military, civilian gov't, etc. It's big but not insurmountable.
"Number 2: If you see the videos "closely" -"
The ones on cable and network tv of the towers collapsing either don't show this or they are dots that could be debris rather than people. Yes, I've heard the closer-up shots exist, but I've never seen them and have no desire to. So the videos aren't "war ****" but instead documentation of criminal acts that does not demean the death of individuals.